This one-liner has become my most powerful melodic mantra.
“I no longer accept disapproval or judgement!”
Taking on what I perceive as disapproval and/or judgement from others has been my biggest hindrance in expanding fully.
And when I reflect on my life I can see it’s always been a pattern. It has stemmed from people-pleasing, fitting in, doing what was expected of me, being a ‘good girl’, toeing the line (what does that even mean?!?!😅) I can clearly see that I took on these roles to avoid disapproval or judgement at all costs. It was one of my survival skills!
And the only possible reason this has been a pattern throughout my life is that I chose to accept any perception of disapproval or judgement as something I needed to take on.
And I no longer subscribe to that belief!
So, this is my melodic mantra. Yep, I sing this line. Because singing activates for more of the Brain than speaking does or reading for that matter.
Singing leads to dopamine release, which is intrinsically linked to neuroplasticity. So a melodic mantra is a whole more power than a plain ol’ stock standard mantra!
And I combine this one-liner with imagery – which is my personal preference for learning.
I imagine someone reaching out to hand me a ciggy- I can either reach out and accept that stick of toxic poison, or I say no thanks.
Bit by bit I am getting so much better at saying no thanks to judgement and disapproval – it feels bloody amazing!!
With this in my kit, I also share it with you. These tools are part of what makes up my Brain Care Cafe and I would like to share this strategy. In delivering a video explaining this I hope it may help you understand yourself and the patterns you may or may not see in your life.
Brain Care Cafe April 19, 2020
- Strategy 073: Boundaries within, not boundaries without
- Category: Boundaries and Structures
- Outcome: Self-responsibility for our boundaries
This is a philosophical, mind frame switch, existential kind of strategy today. But a super important one, because if we don’t understand our boundaries as something we embody, as opposed to us putting the responsibility on those around us?
We will never fully realise the boundaries we are setting for ourselves.
We can certainly be firm with our expectations of others but ultimately our boundaries are something that WE need to stick to.
Hoping that this strategy gives cause for some inner reflection and boundary setting for yourself.
It’s a very powerful thing when we take back control of our what we accept and what we say ‘thanks but no thanks’ to!
My melodic mantra is here for you. xxx
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