When I first did an information audit in my own life my mind was blown at just how many avenues for information I was getting into my life. Just about anything that isn’t predominantly about experiencing the moment or holding space seemed like it was about giving or receiving information.
And I was far too overwhelmed to stick within that status quo.
So I did a relationship audit. (Nb. An audit, not a cull!) I looked at which interactions within which relationships revolved around holding space and which revolves around advice-giving or receiving.
And then I set boundaries as to how I would continue within those interactions.
I decided to unfollow, unfriend and disengage with most of my online relationships, even the ones I have very real relationships with offline. I became aware that online interactions, by the very nature of being online, miss the in-between moments that I love in an interaction, and only leave the words, making them Totes Info dense.
So I took control and became accountable for this.
And then I made a list of people I interacted with in real life who could genuinely hold space, listen, express themselves, express with me, and BE in a relationship.
I also worked out which ones predominantly revolved around advice-giving, analysing or Info dumping and could see when these interactions would be helpful and when I needed to avoid them.
This was so helpful!
It meant I no longer had unfair expectations of friends and family, and I was then able to lean into the different styles of interaction when they were needed, for me and for them!
The bonus by-product of all of this was realising just how much advice I’d been giving out myself and helped me pull back from that, which ALSO reduced the information overload in my own world.
It was a snowball I tell ya! And I haven’t looked back!
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