Children never, ever CHOOSE the meltdown, or any anxiety-related behaviour, in the same way, that YOU would never, ever choose to have a meltdown in front of your family, colleagues or friends!
A meltdown is not a choice, it’s a byproduct of a brain that isn’t coping with something. And that brain needs to be showered in love, compassion and safety. Not punishment, fear or shame.
The meltdown is never, ever the problem – it’s only *ever* the bi-product of something else that’s going on. Something, silently bubbling away below the surface.
Survival mode.
Survival mode is triggered by a brain that doesn’t quite feel in control – and given our fast-paced, expectation based, outcomes-focused, highly populated, sensory dense, information-overloaded, modern Western lifestyle (not to mention 2020😅!)
It’s no *wonder* all of us, children and adults alike, are experiencing more meltdowns than ever before.
It’s our day to day lifestyle that determines how our brain copes with life, and so to support our children’s behaviours the very best we can we need to move away from behaviour management and towards day to day regulatory opportunities.
True for our children, true for ourselves, true for the brain.
Because children never ever chose the meltdown, survival mode was the culprit all along.
Register your interest for here so you can have those aha moments when we run Brains = Behaviours next year. https://www.allisondavies.com.au/behaviours/
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