Brain care. Not behaviour management. It’s SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT!
Behaviour management is SUCH an out of date concept!! The science has well and truly led us beyond behaviour management, there are no doubts – the research is there.
Neuroscience shows us that behaviours are a bi-product of what goes on in the brain and body.
Understanding and supporting the brain/body/nervous system is the ONLY WAY to effect behavioural change.
So why are we still so fixated on the behaviours (the scab) instead of what’s happening inside the body (the wound)? Is it a simple case of our own conditioning? Because we were parented, schooled, engaged and employed in systems that focused on a behavioural standard and use discipline as a consequence?
Or is it deeper than that? Are we so deeply entrenched in societal systems that to shift the paradigm from behaviour to brain/body/nervous system would require a full breakdown and rebuild – of which the magnitude is too large to consider?
I think maybe it’s both. (Spoiler alert – the systems will crash to the ground whether we initiate that or not). But I digress.
Last year I heard of a girl who’s therapist let’s her watch her favourite movie and, due to a special sensor, every time her eye moves away from the screen the movie stops. It starts again when she looks back.
This therapy is to help her ‘learn’ to make eye contact.
Can you imagine it! The torture! The abuse! (FYI – Lack of eye contact isn’t a behavioural problem, it’s a self-protective mechanism, a way of self-regulating, a skill with a purpose, and it has many very important purposes.)
To step out of this space is brave, and painful, and isolating.
But it’s good. And it leads to better places and new systems.
In fact, maybe we don’t need ‘the powers that be’ to restructure and rebuild the systems at all.
Maybe WE just need to step out of an old one and step into a new one. As an individual choice, a conscious commitment.
Knowing in our hearts that understanding their brain, body and nervous system and supporting them to self regulate, is the most powerful systematic change we can make.
It’s time! We can do this together.
Oh gosh it’s time! (Now I feel like punching my fist in the air and yelling FREEEEDOMMMM.) Can you tell I’m passionate about this?!