You would be AMAZED by the number of women & men who’re told by their Health Professionals that they couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic because they’re married, have a job and make eye contact.
I. Am. Not. Even. Kidding!
And then? They’re denied the opportunity of an assessment that could potentially ‘fill in the gaps’ and give them a sense of identity. It makes me pretty mad actually.
I can make the best eye contact you’ve ever seen, I’m *superb* at it actually! But you know how I make it happen? I stare at your eyeballs and count in threes, really fast, to distract myself from the horrid feeling of your gaze poking me in the face. #srsly. That’s what it’s like! And it’s a tiring ordeal!
I discovered many years ago that the whites in your eyes are triangle shaped, so I can use them as a prop for counting in threes. I literally spend all day counting the whites in your eyes just so that I can look at them. And no one would ever know. *THIS* is the kind of information I can safely disclose during an autism assessment, but this is not the kind of thing I tell my GP about during a 10 minute consult.
It is so, SO important that health professionals up-skill, that they learn what we now know about autism (not just what we knew 15 years ago), that they remember it’s a neurological thang!!! ***not a behavioural or social disorder***.
Check me out I can talk to hundreds of people for hours on end. I socialise and have fulfilling relationships.
Yet having my autism identified changed my EFFING life!!!
The thought that other adults have this opportunity denied, due to ignorance, is (tbh) truly heartbreaking.
So, to all of you who live life using a bucket load of coping strategies, and because of this are denied answers and identity?
I hear you.
My heart aches for you.
And the autism community has our arms wide open to you. 🧡🧡
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