Recently I had the absolute pleasure of meeting and talking with one of the most inspired and ‘meant to be together’ couples I’ve ever met – David and Gillian Helfgott!
Needless to say our conversation leapt from topic to thought to advice to idea and then on to another subject!
Music makes you happy don’t you think, music makes you happy? Music’s one of the most wonderful things in the world, isn’t it? Everyone says so.
And do you think people should listen to music more often?
Course they should! Isn’t that what, isn’t that the langauge, music the language that everone understands? One of the most, it’s the language that everyone understands music’s the same, isn’t it, for everyone? Girls just want to have fun and don’t ignore it all, dont ignore it all and play the game.
Sometimes do you need quiet time away from music? Do you need a balance between music and no music?
Um, um, um yeah I do a balance, bay lines, that’s what someone said, bay lines, fay lines, find a level…
Maybe that’s why you like swimming? So you can have a balance?
So do you have ANY quiet time?
Um… Well, well when I’m sleeping, when I’m sleeping, sleeping, even when I’m sleeping.
Oh come on David you want the radio on all night! Classic FM…
I believe David’s playing blesses all – he makes a living but they get the bonus of the joy and liberation.
Oh it’s ok yes, yes…
And sometimes it’s OK to be scared, nervous, confused…
It’s ok not to always be happy – Oh it’s ok yeah!
It’s like if you lived in the sun every day of your life, you’d be longing for cloud! And there’s nothing wrong with sadness! Self pity and victim stuff – that’s a different area altogether, and we’re too much into that in our society at the moment.
What’s That Got To Do With The Price Of Tea?
A lot of times emotional and non-tangible outcomes can’t really be measured the way “they” want them to be, so they don’t always get the credibility they deserve. See this is where happiness is always eluded – how do you define happiness on a graph? Oh, well the child says it feels better, but how do we know that it’s really true? I mean WE can see that it is but…
But the scientific bodies and the people who want the empirical evidence…
Don’t talk to me about scientific bodies – did you know that they just found out that cholesterol is actually good for the heart!
And you know what that mayer said? He wanted for, for my immediate needs as well, for to raise the funds for, the money for… Well anyway so that, anyway, there’s a history in the future.
So what’s that got to do with anything?
What’s that got to do with the price of tea? Yes, would you like a cup of tea darling? Can I put some water in the kettle darling?
David, you’re not having any more caffeine this morning, now just stop it. And enough kisses, come on!
Oh well, well its all because of me and if it wasn’t for you none of this would be, would be possible would it darling, without my darling wife!
Ha, that’s why I wanted to talk with both of you, wives are very important!
Yes, it’s all planned.
I’m so lucky, so lucky just to be here, just to hear your voice, aren’t we lucky in the NOW? We’re so lucky. Right in the moment and right now and stay focused, stay focused and think of the happy times. And think of something different and remember something, try and focus and concentrate, try and focus and concentrate…
And as Jung said NOW spelt backwards is WON – so you’ve already won because you’ve made the most of the NOW!
A Hundred Thousand Times a Day
The maid just gave me some milk if you’d like a cup of tea now?
Oh well would you like a cup of tea?
No thanks, It makes me feel a bit funny when I’m pregnant…
Oh how wonderful, wonderful, how wonderful, is that why you’re eating for two? Eating for you?
Yes, yes I’m eating for two!
David perhaps come and just answer a few questions??
Oh no, no no I’m fine, I’m fine, are you monitoring everything, monitoring it all?
But darling you’re the musician! You’re the musician, I’m just the administrator!
Oh no, no I’m just enjoying my movie so much,
Oh you are just so self centred!
I’m very selfish, very selfish but you’re my darling wife, you’re my darling wife. Gillian tells me she loves me every a hundred thousand times a day, isn’t that nice? isn’t that nice? Validation it’s a good word.
Well I don’t quite love you at this minute – I think you’re being a bit piggy!
Well as long as you do, I know, it’s a bit greedy a bit greedy, it’s not fair, is it!
The Mouse and the Lion
When I watch you perform, it’s like it’s an absolute truth of who you are, a real expression of you, is that right or am I just assuming that?
David what’s your favourite saying about the mouse and the lion?
I feel like a mouse and Rachmaninov needs a lion?
No, no about you David!
No, what do I say about the mouse and the lion? Away from the piano I’m a mouse and as soon as I sit down at the keys I’m a leaping lion. When you touch the keys, yes yes that’s right, a change, a change is good. So a rather rambling and shambling person becomes more.
David where do you feel most fulfilled as a person?
What? What, I’m trying to think. Well playing the piano of course, playing well, when you’re playing well then you feel fulfilled as a person. I’m lucky I’m lucky in that way, I’m lucky that i can play.
The Tax payers dollars
Yeah well you’ve got to be a bit social occassionaly. Just be a bit social, just occassionaly, be resonable, cause after all we are social and spiritual, spiritual, spiritual…
Of course it requires a lot of energy to perform as he does, but then when we’re home he swims for about 4 hours a day. And he finds that swimming is the best release. And also that you have to stay fit physically, you can’t give of your most to life if you aren’t phycially fit. And it allows the energies to all flow.
The pool is a very rhythmic place so there are a lot of similarities there.
Yes, and oh I’ll tell you anther story – we were in Adelaide and I took him to a public pool and I said well why don’t you play the Liszt B Sonata while you’re swimming?, ’cause he’d say to me “Oh I’ve just had a swim and I played the Campanella”, or something like that. Anyway off he went, and the Sonata’s nearly half an hour long, and when he finished I said “Well how did you play that”? And he said “Oh I have played it better”! So, I mean you can’t help but love him when he come’s out with things like that! You see he’s able to live in that musical world while he’s swimming – playing Liszt B minor sonta – one of the hardest pieces ever written!
You see, when I’m playing the piano I’m talking to you, when i play the piano i’m talking to you in my notes, it’s sort of like speech isnt’ it? Well music’s like talking isn’t it? talking to you?
And one of the great things about your performance is that, because you talk along with it, it’s a verbal AND and non-verbal expression!
Talk along with it, yes! Yes, well you can’t have any more, because you can’t have more, if anything you only get less! Well lesser of course, lesser of course…
What on earth is that little…
Yes, homily, about sweet? What do you mean you can’t have any more…
Well it’s very important to be aware, to be aware.Well you can have more of some things can’t you? you can have more of some things?
Yes, but I lost the train of thought pet.
Train of thought, yes, train of thought…
What do you mean? You can’t have more of what?
More of what, i’m trying to think… Um…
I think you’re rambling.
I’m just rambling shambling rambling…
But we get such lovely things out of your rambles!
Thankyou so very much to David for your Energy and Charisma and to Gillian for your Wisdom and Fabulousness! I think I could have chitted and chatted to you all day…